Relationships therapy is a space to explore, understand and work on the dynamics between people, whether that’s a couple, a group of partners, or an individual trying to make sense of their own patterns in relationships. It isn’t only for relationships in crisis. Many people come to therapy to strengthen something that’s already working, to navigate a transition, or to understand why the same difficulties keep arising across different relationships.

Relationships take many forms, and all of them are welcome here. I work with monogamous couples, those in ethically non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships, polycules of any configuration, people practising relationship anarchy or solo polyamory, and individuals working on relationship patterns on their own. There is no assumption about what a relationship should look like.

Sex and intimacy are legitimate, and often central, topics in relationships therapy. Many people arrive with something relational on the surface and something sexual underneath it, or vice versa. My background in psychosexual and relationships therapy means this territory is familiar ground: nothing about your sexual relationship is off limits, awkward or too complicated to explore.

You don’t need to come with a partner. Working on relationships individually, exploring your own patterns, needs, attachment style or history is a valuable and entirely valid use of this space. Sometimes the most important relational work happens alone.

Difficulty, conflict and disconnection in relationships are not signs of failure. They are a normal part of how relationships develop over time. Therapy isn’t about deciding whether a relationship is worth saving. It’s about understanding what’s happening clearly enough to make that decision with some clarity, whatever it turns out to be.